Healthy Tips for Navigating Your New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year to our Happy Hungry Journey Girls and their Loving Families!

Happy 2019! How is it going so far?

Today we want to share a post with you to give you some tips on how to handle conversations about New Year’s Resolutions.

Do you know someone who is talking about their New Year’s Resolutions? Do you, yourself, have any New Year’s Resolutions?

Having a goal can be very exciting! Goals are very important—they provide direction, showing us how to hone our energy and actions. Goals are like cairns-those piles of stones on a hiking trail. They act as milestones on the growth chart of our lives. However, we need to be mindful about the ways in which we talk about our goals.

When you hear friends or family talking about New Year’s Resolutions, is the conversation typically positive, or typically negative? With our experience gained from teaching New Year’s yoga workshops to teens, it sounds like many people talk about their New Year’s goals from a negative perspective. When we ask teens about their hopes and dreams for the New Year, here are the top three topics we hear about, over and over and over again:

I feel so unbalanced. My schedule is overwhelming.

I should be eating healthier. I’m not confident about how my body looks.

I’m struggling with my friendships. They are a source of stress and sadness, not happiness.

Given the number of responsibilities today’s teens and preteens are asked to juggle, it’s no surprise that youth feel as if they’re always coming up short. But at Happy Hungry Journey, we know you’re not coming up short. You’re amazing!

All of our offerings at HHJ, whether related to healthy eating, learning an introduction to yoga, or strengthening your bonds with your squad via our team building offerings, uphold the ages old yoga philosophy. At HHJ, the teaching implicit in all of our offerings is that you are already a complete and whole person. You are the embodiment of balance, healthfulness, friendship, and grace. Living in a world full of emotional and environmental stressors—busy schedules, complex social structures, unrealistic images on social media—often causes us to forget how divine we already are.

If you have a friend who is obsessing over her New Year’s Resolution to “improve herself” in some way, what are some ways you could be kind and supportive? Here are some ways to help her re-word the unkind things she says about herself:

When she says:

I’m failing at life. I have so much to do, but it seems like I can’t do anything right!

Say to her:

I noticed you have been really busy recently. Is there anything you can remove from your schedule for right now and save for the future? If not, I can see that you’re doing a great job, and I’m here for you whenever you want to talk about everything that’s going on. I want you to know I noticed how you really lit up the stage in last weekend’s play. You’ve inspired me to want to learn more about theater.

photo by Montera Espinosa

When she says:

Come with me to get a salad. I want to fit into my favorite dress for Mary’s birthday party!

Say to her:

You’re right that we should try to eat more fruits and veggies. We are busy girls and should nourish our growing bodies with the healthiest food possible. Eating healthy food helps us feel great!

photo by Emilie Bers

When she says:

I’m so sick of Jenny always talking behind my back to Lucy and Amy. They were my best friends, and now they’re only hanging out with Jenny. I need to think of a way to get back at Jenny and get my old friends back.

Say to her:

I’m sorry that your friendships have changed for you recently. Talking behind others’ backs is really hurtful, and because I know you so well, I know it’s something you would never do. If you’re meant to continue your friendship with Lucy and Amy, you might have to give them some time. It takes a lot of patience waiting for others to recognize their own hurtful behavior. They might come back and apologize, or they might not. In the meantime, let’s focus on the strong friendships we already have! Let’s put our energy into nourishing the relationships that are supportive and help us to feel good about ourselves. Don’t waste your energy on people who bring you down. Remember the rule—you have to hold yourself accountable in being kind to everyone, BUT you’re not required to be best friends with everyone. When we learn this distinction, we save ourselves a lot of mental and emotional energy.

by Uma Misha

At Happy Hungry Journey events, you learn that sankalpa is your highest vow. It is not a goal that inflates in the ego, but rather, a commitment to embodying the qualities that you already possess inside of you.

Instead of saying:

I want to feel balanced.

Repeat to yourself:

I am balance.

Instead of saying:

I want to eat healthy.

Repeat to yourself:

I am healthfulness.

Instead of staying:

I seek fulfilling friendships.

Repeat to yourself:

I am the embodiment of friendship.

“I am” statements, or affirmations, help us approach our goals from a positive place. As we learn every time we come to the yoga mat, or prepare a healthy meal in the kitchen, our mindful habits aren’t a journey towards something, but rather a coming home to ourselves—a recognizing, an illumination, a celebration— of the magnificent beings we already are!

Was this blog post helpful in terms of how you’ll think about your goals and New Year’s Resolutions moving forward? Which tips are most helpful? What would you add? What do you do or say when you see a friend approaching her goals in a counterproductive, self-destructive manner? Wishing you a happy and healthful New Year! Looking forward to seeing you in summer 2019 for our FOURTH ANNUAL series of wellness retreats for girls ages 11-18. Email marisa@happyhungryjourney.com or DM us on our Insta @happyhungryjourney for more details!

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